what we’ve found helpful in discussions
Wait: Let the other person speak fully before asking questions. Try not to formulate a response before they finish.
Assume positive intentions: Assume that the other person has good intentions.
Use “I” statements: Use "I" statements to keep the discussion based on your personal experience, rather than pointing fingers.
Lean into discomfort: This discussion will likely be uncomfortable and challenging, but we think growth and learning can come from this place.
Embrace silence: Allow yourselves periods of silence if needed. Give yourself time to process what you've heard and talked about.
Some QUESTIONS to get going
When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up? How did you come to that idea?
Tell me about where you grew up and your family.
What was an event or person that had a big impact on your world view?
Outside of the election, tell me about a time when you felt misunderstood.
Think back to before the election, what were you most hopeful about? What were you most afraid of?
Who did you support during this election? Were you always a supporter of this candidate? Did you have any reservations?
What is one thing you liked about my candidate?
How have you felt since the election and inauguration?
If you could do one thing to help the other side, what might it be?
Is there anything you'd do differently after our conversation today?
Thank each other. Deciding to talk to the other side isn't easy.
Let us know how it went at firstname.lastname@example.org. We'd love to hear from you!